Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Infidelity ... The Modern Malady !


Year of the Tiger ... what does this year has to offer ?

Tiger Woods being the leader of the pack ( so it seems ) ... meaning obviously that the rest of the group would follow . In a way, It's true and it's happening all over !


Not only in the US but in Singapore, and other parts of the world as well. What's happening to the male species ? Getting so overwhelmed by power, money and ego. Let's consider the matter of Pride, Territory and position in the community too. They inevitably forget that there are innocent people they're dragging to their own meltdown once the stolen moments of glory comes to an end. Yes, create sufferings to no one else but their unsuspecting poor family members .
Forget Tiger Woods, forget Jack Neo but how to forget that my disgraced half had joined the group as well ? Cases like Hillary Clinton reaffirming her commitment to her marriage to Bill Clinton, Erin had left to search for answers but came back to support Tiger Woods to get his life back , Irene had stayed beside Jack Neo coz she loves him that much and here I am still here in the same house with my swinging half trying to keep my family together. They're celebrities and I'm not. But, What do we women have in common ?


We all had joined the line of wives publicly standing by our straying husbands.
I don't mean we're all stupid for doing so but we are all sacrificial lambs for the sake of our children involved. Are there any other options when young kids are involved ?
NADA !  ZERO!  NUL !
That's it !
No matter how and where we weigh our anger against the adulterous ones, the sight of the kids would keep us on a mellow stage. Typical Mother Nature !


Lucky, I would say for I have beautiful kids who are my precious jewels. Who keep me strong and help me concentrate in all things I do. Having been in a broken family myself gave me enough experiences as well and great courage to create decisions without seeking other people's help to keep my feet on the ground. Although Moral support from dear friends who were so concerned about my feelings gave me even more mental and emotional strenght and help me realize that I'm just not alone in this kind of chaos. Even them had suffered the same faith but had moved on with their lives. Although some were not as lucky to have a new way of life as single mothers.
Question now is, how to move on ?
 Some women have weaker personality who cried their eyes off and isolate themselves from everyone to avoid the judging stares of people whether family members or simply friends. Why cry over spilled milk ? Get on your feet and cheer up ... not easy for some but it's all worth a try ! Believe me !


I don't cut my cord to let myself off my connections. I face the world with chin up high and no more tears to spare but with more courageous stories and experiences to impart to them. All I know in my mind is I still have my conscience clean to have a good sleep every single night and I'm not the cheater , that's what's more important for everyone to know ... for my kids to know when they reach adulthood as well.
They can say one day ...
" My Mommy is the Best ! "


I have my kids ... 
my ever loyal dogs ,


my good dear friends ready to support & rally behind me ...


and of course my Beads to cheer me up ...


So for deary other half , all that is left to say is ...
 he can eat his heart out while on his knees ...
begging for forgiveness !



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